Sunday, January 31, 2010

Jan 2010

Time passed so fast, January has just said goodbye..
What have I done in the first month of 2010? Nothing...
I'd just read a story book (my target is 2 a month)..
I met up with Xin, Min and Pang..(at least they knew my latest update)
My face got better (but still a lot of scars, I am gonna do something in Feb)
I am still the same... Throw tantrum, crying over small little issues, sleepless
I cried over many things that happened between us. My tears are specially made for you...
I just hope when we meet up next month, we can have a talk over all the things that I concerned.
But I am not a failure. There are still some improvement from me:
1. I don't really CARE how people talk about my work, as long as I'd given the best
2. I am learning not to give myself pressure when I can't sleep...Learn to avoid seeing the time and calculate the hours slept (I am still doing it but I PROMISE I'll quit this bad habit)
3. I kept telling myself how many flights more to do before meeting him, instead of emphasizing the negative side that WE are not meeting for how long..
4. I know myself better (I can't take anything in when I am angry or sad; I am pessimistic and always find excuses in our argument; I always start a conversation in a negative manner)
But, I really have to do something different in Feb.
I'll be going shopping later (Houston)...Hope this is not a big damage over my wallet.
I wanna think of something different to do during my CNY leaves.
Looking forward to a better February!

现实与梦幻

这两天在Houston,真的想了很多。。
我知道他真的希望我能快点回到他的身边,从那儿在重新建立我们的爱窝,实践我们的梦想。但。。
我们的婚礼积蓄真的是少之又少,就如基本的婚宴,聘金,八字都没那一撇。。(其实有好多东西我已不再去奢求)
我建议我们去放松自己,去玩个两三天,但又不舍得把积蓄花在旅费上(又或许可以说我们根本都负担不起)。。
你希望有个属于我们的爱窝,但你有想过如果我真的呈辞了,我们负担得起吗?
将来的日子如何呢?屋子,车,孩子,柴米油盐,全都是钱。。
我知道我现今的财务壮况不是永恒的,但如果我们现在不为我们将来的“柏油路”给铺好,真无法想象坎坷的山坡路是如何让人“寸步难行”的。。
我问你有没有在我们的积蓄例行添值,你就像个小孩说道:“你都还没,为何我要先进钱呢?”当我提了提你我已付了婚照配套的一半费用,你才吱吱啊啊地说“好好” 再问起你的其它个人积蓄呢?你却给了我个很好奇又可笑的反应:“亲爱的,你知道我一个月是赚多少吗?你以为十万八万吗?” 我给你气哑了。。那你还有那么多的梦想,怎么办呢?
我与几位较好的姐妹及哥儿们倾诉,多数的战票都投给了“面包党”,“爱情党”的票数却是廖廖无几。。当我与丽敏提及此事时,她很理值气壮地说道:“别傻了,你不会那么快离开的。你知道现在的应徵是多么的难吗?你还年轻,别蹉跎你的岁月。”
我的包伏是蛮重的,我的父母已老了,也不知我还能孝顺他们多久。。你吃醋了,因为我把他们放在第一位;你认为我很舍得宠他们,但却不是你。
如果真的有一天,我真的能像你说的一样,活在今天,别担心明天,那可有多好。。我也希望我也是活在艾丽斯的梦幻世界里啊,但我还是无法把现实给搁一旁,不注视它的存在。。

Saturday, January 30, 2010

A good start of our marriage life

This morning around 5.35am, I touched down to Houston hotel..As usual, I turned on my laptop and connected to internet. I saw I have 2 unread emails in my Gmail Inbox...It's weird, today is Sunday; my sisters are not working and the emails most probably not from them. Then who else?
I was so so so surprised when I saw this is from my hubby. It is a simple email to tell me that he was busy on saturday and he apologized about that... Actually, I am operating a flight from Moscow to Houston and I knew that he has some tasks to accomplish. Thus, after sending him 2 sms, I stopped and let him "live in peace".However, this email really meant a lot; at least he feels sorry that he didn't kept me update at the first place why he couldn't contact me, what is he busy with? But he made effort to drop an email to me to explain it. Thanks darling...
* Some updates here regards to my future mother in law behavior:
Fei Ma paid RM1.2K to repaint the whole house as she was thinking my parents might be visiting them during CNY. She did it for our wedding preparation also. Maybe she is really not good in speaking but I felt warm deep in my heart when I knew it.

Stewardess's Life

I am going to list down the things that I hate about my job:
1. Irregular sleeping pattern- My body system is too organized, normally can only adapt to regular sleeping pattern as wake up 9/10am in the morning and sleep at 10/11pm at night. I can't sleep anytime I want as other stewardess
2. Make up that have to be put on for more than 10hrs for most of the flights. It's harmful to my skin though it's not the perfect one YET
3. Always alone as always away from my love hubby Daneal, my parents, my sisters, friends and my brother too (surprise that I include him? Actually we had few pillow talks when I was back to JB, though it was so tired and depressing where still couldn't sleep in the midnight. However, the feeling was so sweet and it tied us closely to each other invisibly)
4. Some unreasonable complex leader or colleagues- Some of their comments really make you upset and feel like wanting to take MC on the return sector. However, I think I'd overcame it as I really don't care about all these people anymore (maybe I am going to quit soon)
5. My health problem tends to increase after I started flying- My backache, muscle clamp, eczema, broken nails, dried lips, ACNE, dark circles and wrinkles around my eyes... GOSH, it's a lot...

However, I am still pleased to have this job... I think I just need to learn to tolerate and not to give myself so much pressure. I flew with this stewardess, Terry and she is malaysian too. I told her about my sleeping problem and surprisingly she has the same problem with me. She had flew for 5 years and she just adapt the fact that she is like that and nothing that she can do...Maybe I am too "calculative" in the way of total hours of sleeping, hours of rest before flight and so on... Quality sleeping is more important that quantity sleeping! I always look at the clock before I sleep and calculate I'll be sleeping for how many hours... I should quit this bad habit as it really make me feel stress about it. Learn it from Andson: what you can do if you know what time you fall asleep and you wake up? True, true, I must make myself feel comfortable to have a better rest.
The other thing that affects my sleeping pattern is the internet connection that provided in the hotel. Sometimes I am just too excited that I can Skype with Daneal or keep connected with my fellow friends in Email, FB or MSN... I realized though I am so tired but in order to meet my darling, I'll just wait for him to online and sometimes my sleeping desire will just wave away...it affects my resting mind. BUT, if you take it out from my life, I will be more suffering. OKOK, I'll do it in moderation. I promise.
HOWEVER...
There are things that I really have to tell you all about the benefits that I gained from my job:
1. $$$- My total working hours for a month is much more lesser than working in corporate line. The salary here includes my allowance outstation, flying allowance and my company even pays me when I am sleeping (crew rest period)
2. Personal experience- I traveled quite a lot. Eventhough I hardly join the crew for sightseeing or for meal, however I am able to tell you some of the specialties of some country. I gained it throughout the year(s) and I'll go back to my sightseeing plan as my face is fully recovered (as I can take picture with better look of me)
3. My spending power is stronger now- I am able to buy things that I like and I want. I can't say that I am rich now but at least I can afford to buy a house for parents, buy some branded goodies for my family, sign up my pre-wedding package without second thought (maybe have but I still follow my plan without regret)... But, if I quit one day, how am I going to live with it? I am not materialistic or money minded, however I really feel comfortable with my financial status now. If my darling is working in Singapore(my rental is more worthy), I think it will be the BEST solution as both of us are earning SINGAPORE DOLLARS. I am just thinking of give ourselves a time frame to save more for our future. If I am going back to KL, the only thing that I worry is "How am I going to do with so little of income?" Buy house, car, kids, insurance, monthly expenses... SCARRRYYYY
4. Met some of the colleagues or passengers that gave me some different personal experience. Most of my colleagues are quit materialistic; LV cabin bag, Prada wallet, Rolex watch, Tifanny & Co bracelet...However, I still meet some that are as simple as me. I met 1 crew, Hazel in this flight that told me this: I feel happy when I see my bank account "kao kao" (Thick in hokkien). It's true, girl. I think the women nowadays only feel more secure when they are financial independent. The woman nowadays are more capable? Or the men are less capable?
BUT BUT BUT, I still have to go through the hard decision making... Hope 6 months later, we have a better vision of our future and better decision to be made. Hope everything can compromise and meet our expectation.

Friday, January 15, 2010

无奈的待嫁新娘

虽然这一天我真的期盼了很久,可是真正复杂与无奈的心情也渐渐地迎面而来。。
那天, 我兴致勃勃地拨了个电话给他,但这一通电话却成了问题的启源。当我问及关于我们父母相见的细节时,他却无奈地速说了肥妈的反应。肥妈只道了一句有点‘狠’又无情的话:“那早点通知我,那你爸可以早点请假。”虽看这一句话似没什么,但它却真的伤了我。。感觉上这就是她对这桩婚事的不期待。我一直很感谢她对我的照顾,也一直以为她已把我当成了宝贝媳妇(这是我所听到的,也许是在与大媳妇的相比下,我微占优势)。我还很庆兴自己有个那么随性的家婆,过后的日子就好过好多咯,这真是好愚蠢的想法哦!
我是一个哭包子,只会用我的泪水来发泄我的愤怒与不快。在电话上,我的泪水在我无法控制下,拼命地从我的眼眶涌出来;但在电话的另一端的他只是大声地喉了一句:“那我叫我爸和我一起下去见你的父母,可以了吗?”
其实你了解我吗?我要的其实很简单,就哄一下我,再说些安慰我的话(或与我说些肥妈的坏话),就真的够了。。
那一通电话的结束也迎来了更多的问题;当你打给我时只是冷漠地问我吃饱了吗?待会儿去哪?就怎么都不问我的感受。。星期三晚上,我真的不能再置知不理了,我问起你知道为何我那么生气及伤心,为何不哄我?你只会用回一样的旧理由,说当我生气时,我是什么都听不进的。你何尝不也是只会认为你的想法是对的,而不加以去真正地去了解我。。
在2010年的开始,我已告诉不再为了小事而哭,要看开点,但我真的受伤了,你把你在我心中的老公给糟蹋了,我心灵的守护神给涂鸦了。。我真的看到了我自己的小变化,当我要收拾回自己的心情去做工时,我不再耍脾气还告诉自己有做工就有钱啦;当我收到通知说我的新加坡永久居民申请失败了,我只说了一据‘他妈的’,就不再想了;当我看到了我下个月的行程表时,还会开玩笑地说了一句:“那我就得吃spaghetti 当我的团圆饭啦,可能老天爷要我去那血拼来宠一宠自己(我会在米兰)。”
星期四,你拨了通电话给我,说了些有的没的,就换来了彼此的无声,不知该说些什么。。心好冷哦,身体都僵了,为什么?收到了通知,送了个简讯给你,你没打个电话来看我怎样了,只是回了一个好冷好客气的简讯“这应该很普通吧,因为他门的有了新的制度,下次再试吧." 无法入睡的我打了个电话给你,你还是和冰雕一样,说话冷冷的;当我问起我们的问题时,我一再地为自己的改变而澄清,你才没办法地说了一句‘对不起’。。我接受了,但问题的根源在那儿,你知道吗?
你不再为这段爱情付出多一点的努力及时间。。
我知道你的对不起只是想换个头脑的清静,可能你认为幼稚的我在为自己狡辨,无为在和我争了。。
最近的我爱上了小猪,只要看到他,我都能暂时的把不快乐的事给抛地远远的。。昨晚,看到了海派甜心的结尾,我哭了,因为我又要面对一个我又爱又恨的人。我又要怎么来伪装自己呢?我问为什么我们online了那么久,都没说些什么;我在地球的另一端,哭诉,但你只做了个无奈的表情,我也听到了你无声的抗拒。。你就任为我是无理取闹,又再耍脾气。。
我讨厌你升职了,你不告诉我,因为怕我生气(以为你没心思在新加坡找工了)。。。
我讨厌你说你很想念我,但当我们有了一些憋扭,你就说你不可以拿假;我让步说那我回去吧,你却说“最好不要,我怕没时间给你”
我讨厌你无反应的表情,看了,就真想去撞墙
我讨厌你在我签了我们的婚照配套了了,你才暗示说其实蛮贵的;我很懊恼,你不是说我喜欢就好吗,你不要我过后才后悔。。
我讨厌我自己疼了你又苦了自己。。买了你一直想拥有的游戏机和让你能穿了舒服的昂贵拖鞋,但你还有意没意地说我还没还你模型玩具的钱,你是开玩笑还是任真?当我看到了我信用卡的结单,才发现我还买了机票给你,这还不够吗?
我的其中一个密友说,她认为金钱比面包重要;她希望我能慎重地考虑清楚,因为钱往往是一段婚姻将面对的问题。她告诉了我她对她的前景的不安。。
我想,我真的要把这一些给搁一旁,给自己多点空间及时间,想想自己要的是什么,不再盲目地为这段婚礼,给自己制作了好多好多童话中的情景,这些都是不实在的。。
我不要在生活在这一种自欺欺人及不切实际的生活了。。我是我父母的宝贝,我朋友的骄傲,而不是你的光容。。
这一秒,我又哭了。。我真的累了。。

Saturday, January 9, 2010

Goodbye to 2009 and Welcome A Great 2010

Year 2010 just started and it's already the 10th day. I am supposed to write this blog on the last day of 2009; however I couldn't due to the characters all changed to Arab which I don't understand. (I was in Dubai) Pang and I had the same idea on this blog contents with Janelle and she was the first one who started it.
Let me summarize my 2009:
1. I have bought an unit of condominium for my parents (the greatest thing I'd done)
2. My status had upgraded to Mrs Hon (My hubby proposed and it was the biggest surprise for this year)
3. I'd visited quite a number of countries and had cleared my probation. I was trained for business class and A330 aircraft
4. A great birthday celebration for my father and he was so happy
5. My make up skill had improved a lot (there is a difference before & after I put on make up)

However, for 2010 I'd set some targets for myself and I am looking forward to a better year ahead:
1. Moving in to my new house and I would like to make it a cosy one
2. Preparing my big day (parents meet up, ROM, banquet booking, honeymoon)
3. I'd made booking for my pre-wedding photo package at BNY Gallery (really excited and looking forward to a fun photo shooting. Even though to some people said that the price is very high but I think it's worth it)
4. I must learn to control my emotion and not a crying baby everytime when things not following my way (Always cheer up and think positively)
5. My acne problem getting better and I must really take care of myself to avoid this happen again (I wanna become on of the girls who have very nice texture skin)
6. I hope my body system can changed accordingly where I can sleep anytime & anywhere
7. A family trip
8. Our pre-wedding trip
9. A new car (Honda Accord) for us
10. Darling can find a job in Singapore and we can settle ourselves there
11. Sign up for ball room dancing and makeup class (I must have some skill)
12. Chanel bag from my hubby for our 1st year wedding anniversary (I don't mind to have it earlier :p)
13. Investment in some shares
14. Proper planning of what to do if one day I quit
15. Reading at least 2 storybooks in a month (I'd finished reading PS I LOVE YOU in a week & it really impressed me )and try to communicate more in English (Improvement on the terms and phase I use)
16. Keep fit and return to the body I used to have in Persoft
17. I must pamper myself in the way that buying something for myself (earrings, handbags, watch, wallet...) No more self mental torturing.
18. Do more charity and chanting to make myself calm and peace (No more over worried or nonsense thinking)
19. Meet up my old friends (it's good to meet more people and can learn from them in different prospects)
20. Save up more for a better future

I'll always refer back to this list to remind myself what I have to do. For those that are completed, I'll check on it accordingly.
Amelie, you can do it!!!!